Below is a TED Talk Published on May 13, 2013 with clinical psychologist Meg Jay sharing with the audience how important it is for 20-somethings not to throw their 20’s away as disposable time thinking you will accomplish everything in your 30s.
She has a bold message for 20-somethings: Contrary to popular belief, your 20s are not a throwaway decade. In this provocative talk, Jay says that just because marriage, work and kids are happening later in life, doesn’t mean you can’t start planning now.
I have clients in their 20s and they are realizing that planning is not a naughty constrictive word. Planning actually expands the world of possibilities around what is important to them; relationships, career, health, lifestyle, and environment. Planning is a guide and practice to successfully, happily and confidently grow into settling down in their 30s. The PLAN is to become conscious of their desires, purpose, ambitions, with regards to their career and relationships as apposed to their parents or societies demands.
It is a time for exploration that counts. It is not a time to be wasted.
Meg Jay give three pieces of advice for reclaiming adulthood in your 20s:
- Forget your identity crisis and gain identity capital….add value to who you are. (internships, travel, new experiences that require you to grow or challenge you to know yourself more deeply…)
- Broaden your connections beyond your peers. If you stay with others who are in your situation your world and opportunities are limited. Reach out to others outside you group and expand your world of possibilities.
- Be intentional about who you spend time with and don’t pick relationships because they are easy, convenience or comfortable. Work on all your relationships now (yourself, your family, your boy/girl friend, friends….) and you won’t have as many challenges later.
Click on this link to watch the TED Talk —> http://youtu.be/